Part 3

😄😄Going on to point 3, we have already seen the first question which is God first in the life of the man… Take that seriously cos God is a jealous God😠 and he won’t like u to be joined to some one who doesn’t love him as you do…. Let’s go on to other questions as well. 

2). Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God’s hand in the relationship will be clear. No pretense, No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends. Scripture says: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Prov. 18:22 ). Note —who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. He has to find you and pursue you like he will want a diamond or a jewel. Remember yourself in Proverbs “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.  Proverbs 31:10”

From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together. At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. He will search and find you my dear. 

In God’s perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam had no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don’t have to help a guy out because he’s shy! No dear, be patient. 

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested. Notice this sign and be advised.

Many times  a woman’s mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: “We love him because He first loved us” (1 Jn 4:19 ). (I borrowed this from Bra Solo😀)

Until then, pls relax,  You don’t need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right 👌about yourself. You need only one man—your man, the one God has selected to select you. 👍

And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God’s timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Be discerning becos many wolves are in nice sheep skins all around you. 

Relax ✋sit pretty😇 and allow yourself to be found. Be priceless and valuable and he will go all length to discover you. 

Again,—WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. Don’t make his work less easy for him, be patient and patience will bring out his true self. 

You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. 

Allow him the opportunity to flatter you—this is your first act of submission. See the honesty in his flattery and don’t draw conclusions when he has not. 


Part 2 

Ok so Mi Ladies, In part 2..

We will now be considering when the guy starts to make the approach wether directly or indirectly. We will look at the periods you will have the chances to befriend and be graduating from one level to another. Note: we are doing this discussion to KNOW and ACCEPT Mr. Right.😀

(U don’t accept before you get to know, you accept because you have known) 

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage. Not Everyman was sent from God, some come for their own selfish reasons and some for other reasons. 😊

Friendship👫 is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. This part is very critical and must be taken with every needed cautions. 

Courtship😍 follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively—it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage. This part of the meeting is very critical since mistakes done here may go a long way to affect the journey you will embark upon. 👍

(Previously I posted some Important questions to answer in relationships. U can refer to it again but some other ones are here which can help you ladies as well😀)

Following your meeting, friendship and courting, pertinent questions must be answered honestly to align your relationship rightly👌:

1). Does this man have an intimate relationship 🙏with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is the person a marriage or partner material? Is he accountable to God as well other Christian guys? Does he have “Adonker attitude”😄 or #DeadGoatSyndrome 🏃to accountability”

Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Seek ways to check and demand it. 

Is your potential spouse a member of the same family—the family of God? Some one who believes in the tenets you believe in. Preferably an apostolic or a Pentecostal?. This is very important since there are many diverting views of the bible in many churches and you wouldn’t want that to be a problem when you are settling with him. 

Get to know his beliefs and see if it’s scriptural, some churches have strange beliefs ooo😄

Scripture is clear on this: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Cor. 6:14).  (He is an unbeliever if he doesn’t believe in your faith or church doctrine, he can use it against u one day)

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues. You have had like experiences in your background. Some guys appear to be perfectionists and if u don’t get to know them early…hmm

This questions should be wisely asked becos we have found out some couples have divorced just becos of disagreement on how tooth paste is used. 😟 

Don’t take things for granted cos of love. 

Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together. Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your DREAMBOAT isn’t interested, don’t waste your time. 

Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order, if you are ready and he is not and jux want to have first pls be advised. 

If a guy says he’s not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he’s not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one dear.👍

How to KNOW and Accept MR. Right

This post is from a chat with a group on social media platform. I decided not to edit it so you can have a feel of it of how it was originally worded.


Recently a couple of friends and I have been engaged in a discourse surrounding DIVORCE (we may discuss it later here😀). Tho many of us aren’t married yet we engaged ourselves in this discussion so as to broaden our horizon on topical biblical issues. (But soon we will marry😊)

As I ponder over many of the matters arising from the deliberations I realized the foundation had to do more with the SEARCHING, FINDING AND ACCEPTING on both partners. 

I would like to now engage our unmarried female group members on their part of accepting MR. Right.😄

I will be posting some things which will enhance you to be in the position to KNOW and ACCEPT😊 the right partner for this life long journey of Marriage which some starts with Dating or courtship😄. 

Since it’s plenty😃 I will break them into parts. Pls the experienced and married members 😎are free to offer our ladies timeless advises as well.👍

So here we go with the 1st Part. Comment and ask questions as u wish, I got people here to help us out😄

(Guys our session will come soon✌️)

Life is to be submitted to God to find its partner from God. The decision for a lifetime mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it’s made on an emotional one, we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking for us. Note: He is OMNISCIENCE. 

He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all– how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:3

“What about love? Shouldn’t that be considered?” you may ask. No, and I’ll tell you why. “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer. 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently—it just loves to love😀! 

Therefore, you have to point it in the right directions: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov. 4:23). 

Many women in the bible didn’t fall in love before getting married, they accepted the right Man before learning to love Him. So for love dierrr it’s necessary but not enough for the moment when you have to accept the man. 

Remember accepting the man is accepting to take The Path to Marriage.

Part 5

  mi dear ones  😊

Let’s go on to part 5 where will look at his friends and relations. 

4). Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together. A man’s buddies  tell you a lot about the person that you haven’t seen yet. They reveal things about the guy’s character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. 

Ask about his friends, his best friends, his associates etc and you will know a lot he won’t show you. Be attentive to whom he introduces to you as his friend and weigh their worth and value, 

Remember these are going to be your possible family friends when you finally accept the Man. 

Will you be comfortable with his friends coming close to you marital issues, what quality of influence do they have on him, how does he relate to them.  

Ask questions that will bring out his interest in the things of his friends. 

Many times men listen to advises from friends than their pastors or counsellors. 

Be smart, a man’s friends determines his worth. 

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.  Proverbs 27:17

5). Check his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don’t like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son may continue between husband and wife. 

How does he treat other women in his life, how does he appreciate his aunties, his female siblings etc. This should give you a fair idea of the treatment you will get or your family might get.😄😀

Weekend Edition – The Magic of Clarity Plus Good Reads and Writing Tips

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The Magic of Clarity

lightning treeWriting is an alchemical process that transforms modest words into entire worlds. We begin with an amorphous idea and the ability to string words together in a way that taps into our senses and emotions. We weave a spell that evokes a sense of time and place and experience. Using only these humble tools, we build an alternate reality. We give life to the players on our stage and send them off into adventures of our own devising. If that is not magic, I don’t know what is.

Imagination and creativity are oft-cited ingredients in the story-crafting elixir, but there is another, less frequently cited ingredient that is at least (if not more) important: clarity.

Clarity is both your inspiration and your North Star.

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Making Impact– by Amrich

Sons of honor Presentation By Rich! 3-3-15 @ Power House Ass. 

Topic: Making Impact:

Rhetoric-: When you are dead and gone, when u r no more, for what, by whom and how long will u be remembered? Atleast Ten years after ur death, who will remember u and for what?

“You are here to make a Difference, to either improve the world or worsen it. And wether or not you consciously choose to, you will accomplish one or the other!!- Richelle E Goodrich “

Definition of impact: influence; effect: an object or a person has on the other as a ReSult of contact. 

We will focus on Positive Impact:  influencing others positively so the life of the person is positively changed- good to better, better to best.

My definition is “making a conscious perpetual effort to make a positive influence on any one or group of people you meet

A quick look at First impression: 

It takes just a quick glance, maybe three to 7 seconds, for someone to evaluate you when you meet for the first time. 

In this short time, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Either consciously or unconsciously, we make judgments about the professionalism, character and competence of others based on first impressions.

Tips for making a great first impression 

👌Be on Time

👌Be Yourself, Be at Ease

👌Present Yourself Appropriately 

-dress, cologne, haircut, nails, wear a winning smile, 

👌Be Open and Confident

👌Be Positive

👌Be Courteous and Attentive, 

👌be on your best Behavior.  Give the person ur 100% attention as well 

Learn to  “turn off or silent  your mobile phone”.

Four Conditions necessary for IMPACT:

1. TEA: Time expenditure audit. 

Know what takes ur time, cut down time wastage, since time can’t be stored find out possible ways to do more within a givin period of time. Plan your time daily, write your tasks down and reward yourself after u accomplish it. 

2. Life style legacy 

The impression u will give people around you stick with them for a long time . First impressions last longer and you may not get the chance to change it. 

Check your life styles, 

Ur actions n gestures,

Ur dresses

Ur speeches(correctly n clearly)

Ur Choice of friendship

Ur social media engagements(it’s now a part of us so u must take it serious)

Make every effort that ur life will influence some one positively

“Don’t let anyone make fun of you, just because you are young. Set an example for other followers by what you say and do, as well as by your love, faith, and purity. (‭1 Timothy‬ ‭4‬:‭12‬ CEV)

3.Energy Management

Manage your energy not your time. 

Wen u reflect on ur time 

wen u pat urself 

wen u congratulate urself, 

In this way u mange ur energy,

Types of energy u Manage 

-Physical energy:- how strong you are, exercise regularly, eat well, rest well, strong pipo make impacts 

-Emotional energy:- how happy are u., know what makes u sad, how do u respond to anger, 

A stable person makes impact 

-Mental energy-: how well can u focus on something, if u can’t focus on somethin stop and recharge, how often do u forget, do u analyze, do u think, train ur brains and ur minds, conceive ideas, think quickly, 

Strong mental capacity is very important to make impact

-Spiritual energy:- Why are u doing what u are doin, the purpose must always be from God, what’s ur source of power, the anointing makes the difference, 

Know the anointing of God and seek it. Let God inform what u are doing, 

4. UnPlug-

Unplug urself from technology.  Technology was made to be our servants not our masters. 

Turn off Technology. U can put it on offline or turn off ur phone wen reading, learning, or doin something that requires ur attention 

determine who can contact u, at what particular time, the world won’t come to an end wen ur phone is off for a period where u want to drink Tea (time expenditure audit) 

Six Qualities of impact makers

1. Men of  consistent Character Dan 1 

“Character is who you are when no one is watching”

When u are pressed to sin do you give in,  consistent character means u remain the same everywhere u are put. When pipo  identify consistent character in u u r impacting 

-Humility is one the greatest characters that will help u make impact

The reward for humility and fear of the LORD is riches and honor and life.  Proverbs 22:4

2. Men of Charisma Dan 2 

Charisma is Ur gifts, supernatural abilities, prayerful,  spiritual 

Charisma without character leads to catastrophe 

Daniel made an impact with his gifts of interpretations of dreams 

Examples of Spiritual Gifts 

Rom 12:1 1cor 12:1-31

Administration✔️ Discernment✔️ Evangelism✔️ Exhortation✔️ Faith✔️ Giving✔️ Helps✔️ Hospitality✔️ Knowledge✔️ Leadership✔️Mercy✔️ Pastor✔️Prophecy✔️ Service✔️Teaching✔️Wisdom

3.  Men who are Courageous Dan 3

Fearful men  don’t make impacts 

You need courage to do the right thing Wen everyone says it’s wrong. 

4. Men who are current: 

10 Then Shaphan the secretary told the king, “Hilkiah the priest has given me a book.” And Shaphan read it before the king.

11 When the king heard the words of the Book of the Law, he tore his clothes.

2 Kings 22:10-11

The Chinese If you havnt read a book for the past 3 days don’t talk with anybody. 

You must be abreast with time, and current news. 

Learn more about a specific field everyday. Make use of the tech advancement to enrich ur knowledge. 

5. Men who are committed:-

They don’t give excuses, they don’t give reasons why they can’t be part

6. Men who are good communicators:-

Write books, blogs, article, post etc they put ideas on paper, they take notes, they write well. They speak well, very confident when articulating their views or opinions,

Your books will outlive you, generations will come and read, 

It’s not expensive now to start writing-: 

There are apps that can help u start writing, pen are in expensive, notepads are not expensive so U hav no excuse. 

Pay attention to details 

It’s all about making a perpetual conscious effort.